To a niece that’s funny, mischievous, kind and smart: I remember when you were two and loved to rearrange things. It was then that I started to notice your uniqueness and a fun optimism that life can be what you make it. I see so much hope and possibility in you. I want to share some thoughts that have come together for me over the years:
You’re arriving at an age that comes with a little more independence and fun. As you enjoy life don’t forget your parents and what they’ve done for you. As you make decisions, respect them and make them proud.
Friends will truly come and go. Sometimes they come back in new and unexpected ways, sometimes the friendship is cut short sooner than you think. Sometimes you leave your friends and only realize later what you had. Life isn’t static- it pushes you forward over and over again into new territory and unexpected adventures.
Your heart will likely get broken. You may or may not see it coming, but its going to hurt like crazy. Just know that boy wasn’t right for you anyway, (or good enough to date my niece!) and that’s part of why it hurts.
Learn the Truth, how to tell it and what it looks like. It might resemble a person you respect or admire. It might look like someone you know that has walked faithfully with God and models the truth in their life. In a blog I follow, a wise grandfather gave this advice, which I’m sure we’ve all heard before but it bears repeating: learn what the real thing looks like so you can easily spot the counterfeit. If something is false- reject it. God offers truth and hope Always.
Being a girl is an adventure in itself (and not always fun!) If your emotions aren’t making you feel crazy, other people certainly are. It does get easier. There are days your hopes or dreams might get knocked over by someone not playing nice. Know that everyone has had this happen- People aren’t always careful. You have to train your mind to think of the good and use the hurtful stuff to learn and grow as a person.
Whenever you feel lonely, or sad, or without a friend, pray. I believe God provides the friends we need right when we need them, particularly when things change or we start a new adventure. Look around for the friends He has provided to help you through; it’s easy to forget and take them for granted, but they are one of the greatest blessings in life.
I hope you know, no matter what, that you are treasured, cherished, loved, and set apart.
xo,
Aunt Steph